So he sat you down, held your hand, and told you he needed some space. Or maybe your boyfriend said he wants to take a break from the relationship. Perhaps he even told you he’s not ready for a serious commitment, and wants to step back and slow down a little. But hey, you know what?
It’s all the same.
Anytime a guy removes or distances himself from your relationship it’s because he’s looking to test some boundaries. The bad news is that you could be headed for a breakup. The good news however, is that your boyfriend still has feelings for you… because if he didn’t still love you, he would’ve just broken up with you completely.
No, the fact is that emotional bonds still remain. He might be unsure of what he wants, but there’s one thing he is sure of: he definitely wants you to stick around and wait for him while he “figures things out”.
And trust me… that’s the last thing you want to do right now.
When your boyfriend says he needs some space, the best thing to do is to give it to him. Don’t fight him on it, make promises to change, or ask what the conditions of your ‘break’ will be. Let him say whatever he wants, and then just walk away cleanly. The less of a reaction you give him? The easier it will be to get your boyfriend back.
You see, right now your boyfriend expects you to resist. He wants and needs you to still be in love with him, and he’d like it if you stuck around. In essence, he wants to have his cake and eat it too: your boyfriend wants the freedom to go out and possibly date other girls while you sit at home waiting patiently for him to announce when the break will end.
“I need space” is very convenient, because you can’t even ask him when he’s coming back for fear of pushing or pressing him. This is why you shouldn’t even bother. The best thing to do is announce something along the lines of:
“Yeah, well a ‘break’ doesn’t work for me. Either I’m your girlfriend or I’m not… I care about our relationship too much to play games with it, so take it easy and good luck.”
Once your boyfriend hears you say this, he knows you mean business. You’re not going to sit back passively while he dictates the rules and regulations of the so-called ‘break’. By not allowing him to put your relationship in limbo, you’re giving him a strong taste of the possibility that he might lose you for good. This will scare him so much more than if you played along with his request for space.
Already in a relationship break? Don’t worry, it’s never too late to fix the situation. There are methods and techniques you can use to bring your man around, and get him to focus his love and attention back upon your relationship.
Source by Anthony Malibu